Hayzee, thanks for the tip on the site. I have been there along with several other sites,they have all the parts, etc, but they don't actually have any definite direct info on what is really needed to make the proper hook-up .
I have found out that its the tow vehicles 'sensers' that can be damaged because of the extra lights (amps)that are being used.
I guess the only way is to (bite the bullet)
and head back to the dealership and obtain one of their high priced "modules".
Thanks again.