Kodiak has it all there for you. That AC breaker has to be on all the time for heat and cool.So the tstat can just change the 4 way valve that is out there. Also the breaker for the blower coil unit on so you have the strip heaters in there .
Now the outdoor unit can be set for how it comes on to defrost. If you unit is wired right the strip heater should come on when the unit goes into defrost so you dont get that cold air in the home. At the tstat any time the heatpump cant heat the home and the temp drops 2o the strip heaters should turn on and run till the home temp is back up the 2o.Lots of time with high bills we fine that the duct work is not right for the job and is to small. This will kick up the heat bills on you .Id ask do you change the air filter like you should every 30 to 90 days when the unit is runnung. If you want to check out fuel cost go
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